Family Constellations: Healing Our Family of Origin

“Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary what we need is to love without conditions.”                                                                   Mother Teresa

NEXT Workshop Dates: September 30,  November 18, 2023 and January 7, 2024

PLEASE JOIN US FOR THIS GREAT OPPORTUNITY TO LOOK  WITH NEW POSSIBILITIES!

NOTE: Workshop Dates 9/30 and 11/30 are on Saturday from 9:30 a.m. to 12:45 p.m. (Arrive by 9:15 a.m.), and 1/7 is Sunday from 10 am to 1 pm Arrive by 9:45 a.m.).

LOCATION: Westrock Wellness, 869 Whalley Ave, NEW HAVEN – Second floor, parking on the street, behind building, as well as at corner of Whalley Ave and Blake St.

      Family Constellations is an alive, uniquely phenomenological – spiritual – experience exposing hidden dynamics within families’ traumas and/or misfortunes, often played out within friendships, marriages, and family life. Family Constellations can touch our deepest core, transforming us and the lives of those we love. The innocence of a child wants only to love his or her family, and will often sacrifice their own best interests in a blind belief suffering will ensure a belonging to the family. This workshop brings such hidden loyalties to light so that love can flow in a healthier way.

     We often displace issues belonging to our family of origin – called entanglements and identifications. Family Constellations help regain balance, respect, dignity and love, freeing us to live and love more fully by healing our past, thus offering greater capacity to love, by uncovering disruptions, and thereby freeing one to find strength, health, dignity, belonging, and love in our present lives today.

     Profound healing often results as we explore personal issues related to illness, split-off parts of the Self, and difficulties in work and relationship situations. Those in the helping professions can cultivate systemic constellation skills into their own practices. Attendees are able to feel the effects of this safe environment workshop and gain freedom resulting from powerful resolutions.

Facilitator:  Don Paglia, a veteran marriage and family therapist, trained with J. Edward Lynch, Ph.D., of the New England Institute of Systemic Constellations, and with other world leaders, and has been a trainer for the New England Institute.  Don has Advanced Post Graduate Training, including Bowen Family Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, and has facilitated numerous systemic constellations since 2003. Don also has a private marital therapy practice.

COST:  $65 individual, $90 couple. $25 student. Scholarships available.

Limited Participants. Pre-register by contacting Don Paglia @ 203-671-2211 or donjpaglia@gmail.com and sending fee to: donjpaglia@gmail.com via PayPal in order to insure your place at workshop.

Family Constellations Workshop

A GREAT OPPORTUNITY TO LOOK TO 2023 WITH NEW POSSIBILITIES!!!

PLEASE JOIN US FOR THIS GREAT OPPORTUNITY

Workshop Date: Saturday, April 22nd @ 10 am to 1 pm (Arrive by 9:45am)

Location: Westrock Wellness, 869 Whalley Ave, NEW HAVEN – Second floor parking behind building and at corner of Whalley Ave and Blake St.

Family Constellations is an alive, uniquely phenomenological – spiritual – experience exposing hidden dynamics within families’ traumas and/or misfortunes, often played out within friendships, marriages, and family life. Family Constellations can touch our deepest core, transforming us and the lives of those we love. The innocence of a child wants only to love his or her family, and will often sacrifice their own best interests in a blind belief suffering will ensure a belonging to the family. This workshop brings such hidden loyalties to light so that love can flow in a healthier way.

We often displace issues belonging to our family of origin – called entanglements and identifications. Family Constellations help regain balance, respect, dignity and love, freeing us to live and love more fully by healing our past, thus offering greater capacity to love, by uncovering disruptions, and thereby freeing one to find strength, dignity, belonging, and love in our present lives today.

Profound healing often results as we explore personal issues related to illness, split-off parts of the Self, and difficulties in work and relationship situations. Those in the helping professions can cultivate systemic constellation skills into their own practices. Attendees are able to feel the effects of the workshop and the freedom resulting from powerful resolutions.

Facilitator:  Don Paglia, a veteran marriage and family therapist, trained with J. Edward Lynch, Ph.D., of the New England Institute of Systemic Constellations, and with other world leaders, and has been a trainer for the New England Institute.  Don has Advanced Post Graduate Training, including Bowen Family Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, and has facilitated numerous systemic constellations since 2003. Don also has a private marital therapy practice.

COST:  $60 individual, $75 couple. $25 student. Scholarships available.

Pre-register: More information contact Don Paglia @ 203-671-2211 or donjpaglia@gmail.com to confirm location/insure planning and for a workshop spot.

Family Constellations: Healing Our Family of Origin 

“Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary what we need is to love without conditions.”                                                                   Mother Teresa 

First of 2023 Family Constellations Workshop

Workshop Date: Saturday, March 4th @ 10 am to 1 pm (Arrive by 9:45am)

Location: Ss. Aedan-Brendan parish hall, 112 Fountain Street, NEW HAVEN
(Basement/hall entrance is located at the Alden Avenue parking lot).

We often have issues that belong to our family of origin – called entanglements and
identifications. Family Constellations helps one regain balance, respect, dignity and love, thus freeing us to live and love more fully by healing our past and offering us a greater capacity to love.

Family Constellations is an alive, uniquely phenomenological – spiritual – experience
exposing hidden dynamics within families’ traumas and/or misfortunes, often played out within friendships, marriages, and family life. Family Constellations can touch our deepest core, transforming us and the lives of those we love. The innocence of a child wants only to love his or her family, and will often sacrifice their own best interests in a blind belief this suffering will ensure a belonging to the family. This workshop brings such hidden loyalties to light so that love can flow in a healthier way.

Constellations uncover disruptions so we can find strength, dignity, belonging and love. Such profound healing comes about as we explore personal issues related to illness, split-off parts of the Self, and difficulties in work and relationship situations. With this we are opened to a greater freedom and power to love.

Those in the helping professions can acquire systemic constellations skills to cultivate into their own practices. Attendees are able to feel the effects of the workshop and the freedom resulting from powerful resolutions.

Facilitator: Don Paglia, a veteran marriage and family therapist, trained with J. Edward Lynch, Ph.D., of the New England Institute of Systemic Constellations, and with other world leaders, and has been a trainer for the New England Institute. Don has Advanced Post Graduate Training, including Bowen Family Therapy, and Gestalt Therapy. He has facilitated numerous  systemic constellations since 2003. Don also has a private marital therapy practice.

COST: $30. individual, $50 couple, $10 student.
Pre-register: More information: Contact Don Paglia @ 203-671-2211 or
donjpaglia@gmail.com to confirm location/insure a workshop spot or for additional 2023 workshop dates to be forth coming soon!

“Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary what we need is to love without conditions.”                                                                   Mother Teresa 

First of 2023 Family Constellations Workshop

Workshop Date: Saturday, February 4th @ 10 am to 1 pm (Arrive by 9:45am)

Location: Ss. Aedan-Brendan parish hall, 112 Fountain Street, NEW HAVEN
(Basement/hall entrance is located at the Alden Avenue parking lot).

We often ace issues belonging to our family of origin – called entanglements and
identifications. Family Constellations helps to regain balance, respect, dignity and love, freeing us to live and love more fully by healing our past and offering us greater a capacity to love.

Family Constellations is an alive, uniquely phenomenological – spiritual – experience
exposing hidden dynamics within families’ traumas and/or misfortunes, often played out within friendships, marriages, and family life. Family Constellations can touch our deepest core, transforming us and the lives of those we love. The innocence of a child wants only to love his or her family, and will often sacrifice their own best interests in a blind belief this suffering will ensure a belonging to the family. This workshop brings such hidden loyalties to light so that love can flow in a healthier way.

Constellations uncover disruptions so that we can find strength, dignity, belonging,
and love in our present lives today. Profound healing often results as we explore personal issues related to illness, split-off parts of the Self, and difficulties in work and relationship situations. Those in the helping professions can cultivate systemic constellations skills into their own practices. Attendees are able to feel the effects of the workshop and the freedom resulting from powerful resolutions.

Facilitator: Don Paglia, a veteran marriage and family therapist, trained with J. Edward Lynch, Ph.D., of the New England Institute of Systemic Constellations, and with other world leaders, and has been a trainer for the New England Institute. Don has Advanced Post Graduate Training, including Bowen Family Therapy, and Gestalt Therapy. He has facilitated numerous  systemic constellations since 2003. Don also has a private marital therapy practice.

COST: $50 individual, $65 couple, $25 student.
Pre-register: More information: Contact Don Paglia @ 203-671-2211 or
donjpaglia@gmail.com to confirm location/insure a workshop spot or for additional 2023 workshop dates to be forth coming soon!

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#10:    GET INTO THERAPY

Finally, the tenth step for becoming a successful victim. If you have been following along up to now then it is time for you to advance as you are ready –

more than ready for professional victimhood. You are now a professional victim and this means you’re ready to take on the so-called pros: Find a therapist. Find lots of them if need be. Join groups. Attend workshops. Get diagnosed. Nothing is more useful for a victim than the language of psychotherapy.

“I’m an Adult Child of Alcoholics.”

“I’m an Adult Child of Normal Parents.”

“I was verbally abused.”

“I’m having a mid-life crisis.”

“I was under nourished in my previous life.”

“I can’t help myself, I’m neurotic.”

Don’t find just any therapist; find one willing to do the work for both of you. With a good diagnostic label, some genetically based notions for whatever your assigned malady, and an over-responsible therapist, you are well on your way to avoiding any viable treatment plan that comes anywhere close to your taking responsibility for – ANYTHING.

If you begin to even suspect your therapist may be working up the nerve to offer some psychological insight, such as:

“You know, Billy (age 47 and still living with his parents), it seems to me that getting fired seven times from seven different jobs in less than three years is a bit unusual. Do you suppose you might have something to do with what you describe as a string of bad luck? I mean, maybe not all of it, but maybe some of it? What do you think, Billy, is it possible?”

Dump this therapist immediately! She’s onto you and it’s unlikely that she’ll ever let up. This one obviously does not need the case flow of people that just want to hang around and practice whining and complaining. So he/she isn’t likely going to let go of this “insight” regarding your lack of personal responsibility.

If need be, explode into a fit of well-rehearsed rage.

“You’re just like all the others!” (Meaning those five therapists you’ve fired for saying very similar things already).

“You have no idea what it’s like for me. I’m damaged! All my bosses hated me. My mother didn’t hold me enough/held me too much. My father was a jerk! Too old fashion! Too uptight! Too normal! And now I have this lousy therapist who expects me to be more responsible! You don’t understand what I’ve been through. I’m damaged, and now you’ve made me so upset. It’s all your fault!”

Then, immediately leave.

When you walk past the receptionist, do not let your smile be visible. Wait until you are safely outside before you approvingly notch one more shattered professional into your victimhood belt. You are way more of a professional than this so-called helper.

With these ten steps, when it comes to victimhood, they’re all amateurs – family, friends, work colleagues, ministers, and even professional therapists. You’re the professional!  After all you definitely have what it takes.

NOTE:

I do hope you’ve enjoy this tongue and cheek series, possibly playful approach – this paradoxical tactic – and have even found it to be perversely useful. Obviously real people do have real problems. In no way was this blog series meant to belittle or discount the serious or tragic things that many people must face. At the same time scapegoating, blaming and projecting, on top of our very human condition – our addiction to needing to be right makes it difficult to see the part we may play in our problems and struggles.

None of us get to choose the circumstances of our lives. However we do get to choose how we respond to the circumstances of our lives. And to that end I say we get to have a powerful say in the matter of our lives.

Pogo, the now defunct comic strip once said:

“We have met the enemy and he is us.”